Using Interpersonal Skills to Heal Shame:
Undoing Aloneness and Building Safety and Rapport
Details and Registration
Summary: In this workshop you will discover powerful tools to connect with a client quickly and deeply. We will provide demonstrations to help you decide when to hold back and when to bring yourself forward, both emotionally and physically.
Presented by: Bret Lyon, PhD, SEP and Sheila Rubin, LMFT, RDT/BCT
Dates: September 21 & 28, 2024
In many studies of the effectiveness of therapy, a strong connection between therapist and client has been noted as the clearest predictor of success. And yet our own shame and fear of doing the wrong thing can get in the way of that connection. We can be overly susceptible to messages telling us to be "neutral” and “professional.” We can find ourselves holding back our warmth, generosity, and enthusiasm.
In this workshop you will discover powerful tools to connect with a client quickly and deeply. We will provide demonstrations to help you decide when to hold back and when to bring yourself forward, both emotionally and physically. Because shame can produce a state of freeze, we may need to be even more active and kind in order to counter it. You will learn ways to convey to the client “I’m right there with you”—in a dance in which you alternate between follower and leader. This dance, in which the self of the therapist reaches for the self of the client, can transform toxic shame into healthy shame. Being “right there” in a supportive way with the client is especially important in working with shame, which can turn a person’s gaze inward and make them feel lacking and inferior when the inner critic seems to suddenly take over.
Clients with all-pervasive shame may not know why their life isn’t moving forward or why their relationships or jobs don’t seem to work out. They may come to the conclusion that it's simply because there’s something wrong with them. Shame provides a simple, powerful, coherent narrative. As therapists, we can provide both psychoeducation and a counter-shaming experience of relationship that can change the narrative. We are inviting the client to a dual consciousness in which they can be with shame and trauma from the past in a structured way.
Taught by Bret Lyon, PhD, SEP and Sheila Rubin, LMFT, RDT/BCT
2 Saturdays: September 21 & 28, 2024
10:00 am TO 6:00 pm Pacific Time
ONLINE
Live and recorded, using the Zoom platform.
Pricing and Registration:
$395 full price
$375 with early bird discount, paid in full by August 23 (Use coupon code EARLYBIRD)
Special rate for interns - $70 off full price (Use coupon code INTERN)
Course Level: Beginning
There is no prerequisite for this course.
13 CE credits (See CE information below.)
CAMFT Approved CE Provider #134393
This course is for therapists and helping professionals. If you're not sure if it's the right class for you, please contact Bret Lyon at Bret@HealingShame.com. This workshop can be applied toward certification as a Healing Shame Practitioner.
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CE Credit
The Center for Healing Shame is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California – CAMFT-approved CE provider #134393. Courses meet the qualifications for hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.
At this time, we are only able to provide CE credit to LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California and RDTs in the US. We are not able to offer CE credit to psychologists or nurses in California or to psychologists, therapists, or nurses licensed outside of California in the U.S. and Canada.
For complete information about CE credit, Hours of Attendance certificates, and course credit, please visit our information page at http://healingshame.com
The Center for Healing Shame maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content.
