How To Be Listened To When The Other Is Not Listening
Focusing Highlights is a series of interactive, online pay-what-you-can classes.
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Thursday ,May 9, 2024
8:00 am - 10:00 am PST
Location: Online via Zoom
Cost: This live online class is pay-what-you-can. The suggested payment for US residents is $30.
Registration info: Contact The International Focusing Institute with any questions: Phone: (845) 480-5111 Email: elizabeth@focusing.org
How can you get what you need, even when the listener seems unwilling or incapable of giving it?
Even with those trained in Focusing, it can happen that during your Focusing session, your partner doesn’t listen well, or doesn’t listen in the way that supports you. Even more so in life, many people out there in the world haven’t learned to truly listen. We have all probably been guilty of this ourselves, but this workshop is not about how to listen to others. It's about receiving what we need when circumstances aren't ideal.
Through demonstrations of good listening and listening that isn't helpful, as well as through experiential exercises, Evelyn and Catherine will share strategies for overcoming the obstacle of not being listened to.
Presented by The International Focusing Institute
May 9, 2024
How can you get what you need, even when the listener seems unwilling or incapable of giving it?
Learning to ask for what you need is an important skill, but it doesn’t always work because sometimes the listener doesn’t do what you’ve asked them to do, for whatever reason. The most liberating skill is to be able to listen to yourself even when the listener is not creating a conducive environment. Even with those trained in Focusing, it can happen that during your Focusing session, your partner doesn’t listen well, or doesn’t listen in a way that supports you. Even more so in life, many people out there in the world haven’t learned to truly listen. We have all probably been guilty of this ourselves, but this workshop is not about how to listen to others. It's about receiving what we need when circumstances aren't ideal.
In this Highlight, Evelyn and Catherine will discuss the phenomenon of not being listened to, which they have experienced many times themselves. Through demonstrations of good listening and listening that isn't helpful, as well as through experiential exercises, they will share strategies for overcoming the obstacle of not being listened to.
In this Highlight, Evelyn and Catherine hope you will gain greater capacity to tap into your felt sense, even while not being well listened to by another person. Strengthening this skill can help your Focusing sessions be more consistently fulfilling. Better yet, it can help bring more felt sensing into your daily life.
Some familiarity with Focusing is helpful, but no prior experience is required. All are welcome to attend and participate.
Dr. Evelyn Fendler-Lee is a self-employed organizational psychologist and person-centered counselor. She is a certified Focusing-Trainer and a coordinator-in-training offering the training & certification program “Deep Thinking to Move Life and Thoughts Forward.”
Catherine Torpey is the Executive Director of The International Focusing Institute. She first learned Focusing in 1996, in the Bio-Spiritual style, which emphasizes the aspect of grace in Focusing and which encourages the listener to fully honor the words used by the Focuser. Her idea of how to be a companion (listener) in a Focusing session when she was at the first Focusing Institute Summer School in 2006 and saw Gene Gendlin companion others in his own style. She later learned Domain Focusing and was certified by TIFI.
Registration info: Contact The International Focusing Institute with any questions: Phone: (845) 480-5111 Email: elizabeth@focusing.org
