The Center for Healing Shame is an international education center and continuing education provider dedicated to serving the community by training therapists and other helping professionals how to work with shame.
Shame is perhaps the most painful of all emotions. It is at the root of both the inner critic and perfectionism. It binds with and hides behind other emotions, such as anger and fear, so that it is often hard to detect. Shame often fuels and promotes the negative cycle between members of a couple. Where there is blame, there is shame.
Shame is both a primary emotion and a freeze state, which has a profound effect on personal development and relationship success. While shame is often confused with guilt, shame is primary and exists in the body, while guilt is secondary and cognitive, relating to both shame and remorse. Shame can be viewed as developmental trauma. It causes much of the same physical and emotional freezing as trauma does. And shame often accompanies trauma, forming a downward spiral that is hard to break.
Many people go to great lengths to avoid acknowledging or even feeling shame—and this gets in the way of making progress in treatment. For many clients who don’t get better in therapy, shame—unacknowledged and not worked through—is the primary factor. Both therapists and clients need to be educated about shame: how it develops, what it is and how it works. And therapists need help in developing a working model of how to help their clients identify, work through and heal their shame.
The Center for Healing Shame is based in Berkeley, California. Workshops are offered in Berkeley, at various other locations in the U.S. and Canada, and online. There is also a full training and certification program for therapists. The education is designed to help therapists show clients how to recognize shame, work through it and move on by:
• Becoming more sensitive to the shaming often implicit in the therapy situation and learning how to counter shame in therapy.
Center for Healing Shame 2020 Workshop Schedule
Healing Shame: The Core Workshop – Berkeley Saturday and Sunday, January 25 & 26, 2020
Advanced 2: ShameShifting – Transforming Toxic Shame into Healthy Shame – ONLINE 4 Fridays: January 31, February 7, 14 & 21, 2020 – 10am–1:30pm Pacific Time Learn to help clients shift the shame, transforming it from toxic freeze to helpful change agent.
Healing Shame in the Inner Teenager and Actual Teenager – Berkeley Saturday and Sunday, March 7 & 8, 2020 Learn how to help your clients reestablish a healthy relationship with their inner teen—how to both listen and talk to that sensitive, creative and essential part of us.
Shame and Aging – ONLINE 4 Fridays: March 20, 27, April 3 & 17, 2020 – 10am–1:30pm Pacific Time Explore ways to help clients talk about, explore and heal their shame around aging.
Healing Shame in Couples and Other Important Relationships – ONLINE 4 Fridays: May 8, 15, 22 & 29, 2020 – 10am–1:30pm Pacific Time
Shame and the Body – ONLINE
Healing Shame: The Core Workshop – ONLINE 2 Saturdays, June 20 & 27, 2020
Melting the Shame Freeze: Somatic Techniques to Create Safety and Build Attunement – ONLINE 2 Sundays, July 19 & 26, 2020
Advanced 1: Giving Back the Shame – ONLINE 4 Fridays: September 11, 25, October 9 & 16, 2020 – 10am–1:30pm Pacific Time
Healing Shame in Inner Children and Actual Children – ONLINE
Through the Looking Glass: Using Imaginal Resources to Heal Shame – ONLINE
All workshops except for Advanced 1 & 2 have no prerequisites and can be taken in any order. 13 CE credits available.
All workshops provide exciting new insights in how to work with shame and include a combination of lecture, discussion and experiential learning. You can read descriptions of each workshop on the website. Workshops may be taken individually or as part of the Healing Shame Certification Program. For information on the Certification Program, please visit the website.
You can register online with full payment or a $100 deposit through the Schedule page at HealingShame.com.
For more information, please contact Sheila Rubin at 415-820-3974 or Sheila@HealingShame.com.
The Center for Healing Shame is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for MFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California - approved CE provider #134393. Berkeley and online courses meet the qualifications for 13 hours of continuing education credit. CE credits for PhDs and nurses licensed in California and PhDs, therapists and nurses licensed outside of California in the U.S. and Canada are available through our co-sponsor. Please visit our website for details.
Sheila Rubin and Bret Lyon are the founders of the Center for Healing Shame. They have been at the forefront of guiding mental health professionals to recognize and move through shame with their clients.
Sheila is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Registered Drama Therapist and a Board Certified Trainer. She has developed therapy techniques that integrate AEDP, EFT, drama therapy and somatic therapy to work with the all-pervasive shame and trauma that underlie eating disorders, addictions and toxic family dynamics. Sheila has served as adjunct faculty at JFK University and the California Institute of Integral Studies. Her expertise, teaching, and writing contributions have been featured in numerous publications, including six books.
Sheila offers therapy through her private practice in Berkeley and also offers consultation to therapists over Skype.
Bret Lyon, PhD, SEP has been a teacher of Somatic and Emotional Mindfulness for over 30 years and holds doctorates in both Psychology and Drama.
He is certified in Focusing and Somatic Experiencing® and has trained in EFT with Sue Johnson, in AEDP with Diana Fosha and in Coherence Therapy with Bruce Ecker.
Bret has also trained in Reichian Breathwork with Al Bauman, who worked directly with Wilhelm Reich. He finds his theater background very helpful with clients and especially in giving presentations.
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