Shame: Spirituality, Transformation and Healing
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“Can Shame Be Helpful? Transforming Toxic Shame Into Healthy Shame”
7:00 PM EST – April 4
Shame is the most painful and difficult of all emotions. It actually combines a primary emotion with a freeze state. Shame can be toxic and debilitating, the enemy of the life force. Yet, as with some other poisons, a small dose of shame can actually be helpful. In fact, healthy shame is one of the bedrocks that society rests on. All societies use shame to socialize. We would not want to live in a society where noone had any sense of healthy shame. Our task in working with shame then becomes easier. Rather than trying to eliminate shame entirely – which is impossible as the ability to feel shame is coded in our dna – we need to help clients transform their toxic, debilitating shame into healthy shame. Healthy shame is the ability to say (and feel) “I am human. I am not perfect. I make mistakes, just like all humans do.”
In this webinar we will discover the qualities and characteristics of healthy shame and explore the physical, emotional and cognitive tools that can transform toxic shame into healthy shame. We will:
- Understand the role of shame in social development and explore how and why shame can be helpful
- Learn the difference between healthy and toxic shaming
- Reverse the consequences of childhood toxic shaming through countershaming, normalizing and educating
- Create reparative experiences through somatic processes and imaginal role-play
- Restore dignity and bring the client’s strengths, resources and life-force back online
- Help clients reengage while accepting their human limitations
“Healing Shame in Couples”
7:00 PM EST – April 27
A Webinar for Therapists and other Helping Professionals
The more we care about each other, the more vulnerable we are to shame. Intentionally or unintentionally, we poke each other in the tender spots. Couples can shame each other multiple times a day, often without realizing what is happening. This can become a highly reactive cycle, preventing both people from getting their basic safety and attachment needs met. And shame can distort how we hear each other; the received message may have little to do with the message the partner is attempting to send.
In this workshop we will explore the blame/shame game couples can fall into and how to help them stop shaming each other and work together to create a secure base and heal the wounds of the past.
- Look at some of the many subtle ways shame can be triggered.
- Explore shaming moments with great care so we can teach our clients how to avoid shame-based reactivity.
- Learn the gentle art of “counter-shaming”, how to actually help a partner with his or her feelings of inadequacy.
- Help a person give back shame to the original source with their partner’s full support.
If we can free the energy that has been stuck in blame and shame, couples can increase their vitality, joy and intimacy.
Bret Lyon, PhD, SEP has been a teacher of Somatic and Emotional Mindfulness for over 30 years and holds Doctorates in both Psychology and Drama. He is certified in Focusing and Somatic Experiencing® and has trained in EFT with Sue Johnson, in AEDP with Diana Fosha and in Coherence Therapy with Bruce Ecker. Bret has also trained in Reichian Breathwork with Al Bauman, who worked directly with Wilhelm Reich. www.BretLyon.net.
Sheila Rubin, MA, LMFT, RDT/BCT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, a Registered Drama Therapist and a Somatic therapist. She has integrated somatic and expressive modalities with EFT to work with couples, adults and children who have shame and trauma. She has trained in EFT with Sue Johnson, in AEDP with Diana Fosha, and in Hakomi with Ron Kurtz. She has served as adjunct faculty in the JFK University Somatic Psychology Program and the California Institute of Integral Studies Psychology and Drama Therapy Program. She is a CAMFT Certified Supervisor and has been a healing professional for 25 years. She has developed techniques to work with the all-pervasive shame that underlies eating disorders and addictions. www.SheilaRubin.com.
Shame Resolution & Spirituality: 2 Part Advanced Practitioner Webinar Series
7:00 PM EST – April 10th & 11th
What you will Learn Part 1
- What happens to the self when shame and spirituality intersect
- Why working solely with somatic strategies may be limited or ineffective in transforming this nexus
- How dreams can provide a medium for shame to begin to resolve
- How dreams and their function can be harnessed to build greater empowerment
- Why shame transformed at the dream level can be experienced in the body
What you will Learn Part 2
- Why somatic strategies may become futile in the face of shame and its spiritual shattering
- How various art therapies can provide parallel neural networks to a shattered soul
- Ways in which theatre, music, writing, singing and dance/movement therapies can bridge capacity between spiritual realms and the Autonomic Nervous System
- How to determine the key emphasis of the work: experiencing…performance…spiritual renewal… greater embodiment
- Ways to determine the transformative value of the work regardless of its traditional somatic integration
As a somatic facilitator she transforms, educators, and trainers professional around the world in paradigm-shift, life-affirming approaches to human development and growth. Author of Alchemy of Shame Transformation for Therapists and Healing Professionals, Caryn is the developer of what is fast becoming the gold standard approach to shame resolution: AST Model of Holistic Shame Resolution®. This neuro-biologically-principled, neuro-relational approach specializes in chronic shame relief and resilience, shame-based early trauma, shame-based relational re-patterning, and life-affirming authentic self-expression and empowerment. Caryn is a post advanced program instructor at the Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute, a member of the UN NGO Committee on Mental Health, USABP Presenter, and speaker at the United Nations on the issue of resolving shame in women and girls around the world. Caryn’s monthly blog published by Somatic Psychotherapy Today, Inside Shame Transformation offers highly sought tips and case studies to professionals for applying the AST Model’s breakthrough shame resolving principles. In addition to online courses, webinars and live trainings, Caryn offers private sessions and in-person in the CA Bay Area and NYC and remotely via Skype to clients around the globe.